There Are No Hot Chicks In Mostar
Armed to
teeth with the newest tech gadgets and dressed in tailored jeans and a
fitted blazer, a middle-aged British man drank his macchiato and fiddled
with his iPad a few tables away from where I was sitting in a crowded
bar in Mostar, Bosnia. The waitresses wore clingy miniskirts and even
tighter low-cut t-shirts, and whenever they walked by our fashionable
tourist’s table, he leered at them unabashedly.
Since he was by far the best dressed and
most attractive man in the whole place, the waitresses eagerly danced
around his table, showing off their linguistic skills and attending to
his every wish.
When the time came to order another
drink, the spiffy British tourist confidently took hold of the blonde
waitresses wrist and asked her for her number. Without a moment’s
hesitation, the young girl wrote it down on a napkin and then drew (and
mimed) some directions which I wasn’t able to decipher.
Not more than 10 minutes later, a
different waitress approached the smoothly shaven and audacious guest to
ask him if he would like to try one of the local cakes or pastries. In
the same manner with which he procured the first girl’s digits, the
Omega-wearing vacationer serenaded the second waitress, who promptly
scribbled her contacts on the flip side of the same napkin that held the
first girl’s number.
After concluding a prolonged gaze at the
waitress’ behind as she walked away towards another table, the British
tourist suddenly looked in my direction and our eyes met. He gave me a
crooked grin as he folded the napkin and put it in his wallet, and then
said: “Man, there are so many hot chicks in Mostar. So little time, and
so many of them.”
Surprised and susceptible to peer
pressure, I raised my eyebrows at him and smiled awkwardly. I wish I had
frowned instead and shook my head in disgust. I wish I had stood up and
shouted the following screed in his direction:
‘If you only knew that the girl you plan to use shares a nine square-meter bedroom with her younger brother and her grandparents, then maybe you wouldn’t be able to see her as nothing more but another hot chick. If you knew that three sacks of flour are stacked next to her pillow because her family cannot fit them anywhere else in their shabby one-bedroom, then maybe she would be a bit more than a piece of ass to be enjoyed during your Balkan excursion. If you knew how many times she had to blush in embarrassment and apologize to her friends and guests for the uncontrollable farts and burps that emanate from her bedridden grandfather, then maybe you wouldn’t be able to reduce her to a mere sex object. If you only knew that she had to heat up water in buckets to wash herself and to serve her family a three-day-old cabbage soup before coming to work, then maybe it would have been a bit more difficult for you to reduce her to an expendable commodity.”
The reason that I knew all of these things was because the second waitress is my cousin.
I wanted this man to know that
objectifying women anywhere is detestable, and that it takes a real
jackass to do it in a third-world country. But next to my lack of
courage, there was something else which prevented me from speaking out: I
recognized a bit of myself in this man. I was reminded of numerous
occasions on which I had “accidentally” dropped my American passport on
the floor, or inserted a word or two of English into a conversation when
in the company of attractive Bosnian girls.
Regardless of how hard I tried to link my
indignation at the British man’s actions to some kind of corresponding
personal virtue, I wasn’t able to come up with anything convincing. It
didn’t work. There was nothing there. Upon arriving at this realization,
I suddenly felt petrified.
from here with one of his collages
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